魔兽世界宠物攻略:七岁开始的圣洁教育

一个16岁的基督徒少女，生活中有50%的可能性会偷吃禁果，独自咀嚼生活的混乱与忧愁。父母都不理解，为什么在他们以为都正确的教导下女儿们还会犯这样的错误。也许父母们做的是对的，但只是开始的太迟了。8至12岁的女孩并不受行为规范的约束，而此年龄段也正是塑造一个女孩健康生活态度的最佳年龄段时段。

I have to hold myself back every time a white-haired grandma leans in to her pig-tailed granddaughter and teasingly asks her, “So, do you have a boyfriend?” This, usually said with a chuckle and a batting of the eyes, is generally meant to be just silly conversation, but I know too much to consider it to be cute. It is dangerous.  Being in a dating relationship for six months or longer is a significant risk factor for early teen sexual activity. Can you see why it might not be “cute” for our 8-12 year olds to be boy crazy or to have multiple boyfriends while they are still in the fourth grade? If she develops the pattern of “needing” a guy when she is eight or nine, she’s going to be in many six-month relationships in her early teen years. That’s not wise. Let’s help her stay off the boy crazy train.

每次当白发沧桑的老奶奶斜靠着扎着辫子的孙女并问她“你交有男朋友吗？”，我都犹豫不决。通常这样面带窃笑并且眼睛直盯的谈话都意味着很失败，我知道的多了就当这是很可爱的。这并不好。对于青少年而言，六个月或更久的交往会让他们的蠢蠢欲动。一个8至12岁仍在四年级的男孩或同时交往多个男友的女孩并不“可爱”，知道为什么吗？如果当她八岁或者九岁时跟风交男友，那么在她这个年龄段就会有很多长达六月之久的关系。这并不明智。就让我们帮她脱离她身后一堆男孩的疯狂追求吧。

I have two sixteen-year-old girls who have not only stayed off of it, but have managed to pull a few friends off. How do you navigate through boy craziness? There are three critical things you must do to prepare your princess to be successful in her quest for purity. First, you’ll need to have the big sex talk. Don’t think for a minute that it’s too early. Experts agree that sexual value formation begins when a child is between the ages of 8-10. A healthy, age-appropriate conversation during those years is critical. Second, you need to begin to establish your family philosophy on dating and begin to explain it to your child in stages. This will begin with the first stage of teaching her to relate to boys as friends, not boyfriends in fourth grade! Finally, mom, it’s time to start dreaming of her future. If you take the time now to establish a dream of purity and a white wedding dress in her heart, she will know what to aim for and will be less likely to settle for anything less.

我有两个16岁的女儿，她们不仅不会犯错而且能成功的交到一些朋友。那么你们是如何应对男孩的疯狂追求呢？这里给你三个争议性建议，能够让你的小公主成功应对这样的追求。首先，你们需要好好地谈谈性。不要犹豫这个话题是否太早。专家表示性价值观的取向从8至10岁就开始逐步形成。在这几年中健康合适的谈话是有必须的。其次，你需要逐步向孩子解释并建立起家庭人生观。第一步就是教会孩子在四年级如何和男孩子做普通朋友而并非恋人。最后，对于母亲而言，就是让孩子畅想自己的未来。如果你花点时间让孩子建立一个圣洁的梦想，并且在她心里描绘一件纯白色的婚纱，她就会知道她该追求的目标，如此便不至于做出一些不恰当的事情。

The book of Proverbs describes a virtuous woman. It says that she does her husband good “all the days of her life.” I think that includes when she’s seven!

旧约圣经中的箴言篇讲述的是一个善良的女人如何和自己丈夫相处一生的故事，其中也包括她七岁时的生活。

*Article originally posted November 2009 on GirlsGoneWise.com.

文章出自 2009年11月的GirlsGoneWise.com