奥巴马总统在父亲节的演讲(2011-08-16 11:06:22)
奥巴马总统在父亲节的演讲
今天这个日子提醒我们，在我缔造生活所依赖的基石中，最为重要的是家庭。我们必须认识并且肯定每一位父亲在基石中起到的关键作用。父亲既循循善诱，又训练指导，既指明方向，又言传身教。父亲是成功的榜样，又是不断推动我们走向成功的人。
但如果我们开诚不公，就会承认还有太多的父亲不在其位——在太多孩子的生活里，在太多的家庭里，父亲的这一角色是缺失的。他们置责任于不顾，表现得像小男孩，而不是男子汉。我们许许多多的家庭的基础也因此变得薄弱。
在讲这些话时，我心里明白，我不是一个完美的父亲——我知道我犯过错，而且未来还会犯错；我希望能有比现在更多的时间待在家里，陪伴妻子儿女，可是无法做到。所有这些我都明白，却仍然要这样讲。是因为纵然我们不完美，纵然我们面临重重困难，却依然有一些经验教训，是我们身为人父必须努力经历、努力总结的——不管我们是黑人或白人，富人或穷人，来自贫穷的南区或来自富裕的郊区。
第一个经验是，我们必须给子女做出一个绝佳的榜样——因为我们如果对他们抱有厚望，我们自己也应该志存高远。你有工作是件好事，有个大学文凭好上加好。如果你结婚成家，儿女绕膝，那再好不过，但不要整个周末在家里看ESPN体育台的“体育中心”。许多孩子就是在这样的影响下傍着电视机长大的。作为父亲，作为家长，我们应该花更多的时间陪伴孩子，帮助他们完成学业，时不时地把他们手中的游戏机或电视遥控器换成一本书。这就是我们打好家庭基石的方法。
我们明白教育是创造孩子未来的关键。我们明白为了获得好的工作，他们跟世界各地的孩子竞争。我们明白为此所需的辛劳、学习和应达到的教育水平。要想真正参与竞争，他们需要高中毕业，然后大学毕业，也许还得拿一张研究生文凭。让我们握握他们的手，叫他们把屁股挪到图书馆的座椅上吧！
要把这种追求卓越的理念灌输到孩子的头脑，就得靠作为父亲和家长的我们。我们有责任告诉我们的女儿，别让你的自身价值被电视上的形象影响，因为我期望你的梦想无极限，期望你去追求这些梦想。我们有责任告诉我们的儿子，虽然收音机里的歌曲美化了暴力，但在我的家里，我们歌颂成就、自尊和辛勤的劳动。我们有责任提出这些厚望，那就意味着，我们自己也必须达到这些期望，我们在生活中也要做一个卓越的榜样。
第二个经验是，作为父亲，我们应该传递给孩子感同身受的价值观。不是同情，而是感同身受——能设身处地地为他人着想，能从别人的角度看世界。有时候我们是那么容易地执着于“我们”二字，忘了我们相互之间应该承担的义务。我们的社会有一种文化观念，认为牢记这些义务是一种软弱的表现——我们不应该显得软弱，因此我们不应该对人表示关爱。
但是，我们年轻的孩子们——孩子或女孩子——会观察到这一点。他们会看到你对妻子置之不理拳打脚踢，他们会观察到你的自私，所以在学校或在街上看到同样举止行为是不足为奇的。这就要求我们必须以身作则，把感同身受和与人为善也传递给我们的孩子。我们需要给孩子做出榜样，告诉他们强者不是把别人击倒，而是把别人扶起来。这就是我们作为父亲应该负起的责任。
我们应该采取这些作法，为我们的孩子打下坚实的基础。但我们也应该明白，即使我们做到了，即使我们作为父亲和家长尽到了应尽的义务，即使我们的政府也履行了职责，我们在生活中仍然会碰到许多艰难的挑战。我们仍然会有挣扎与痛苦的日子，风雨仍然会袭来。
因此，我们作为父亲应该总结最后一个经验，也就是我们可以送给孩子最为贵重的礼物，就是希望。
我们的希望不是空谈的希望，不是那种盲目的乐观主义，或者是对所面临问题的有意忽视。我讲的希望是那种长存于内心的精神——即使所有的迹象都不乐观，这精神也让我们坚信有更好的未来在等待我们，只要愿意为之努力，为之奋斗。只要我们有这个信念。
我们尝试，我们希望，我们尽力把我们的房子建在最坚实的基石上。当风吹时，当雨打时，当风雨侵袭我们的房子时，我们坚信上帝会引导我们、注视我们、保护我们，引领着他的孩子们穿过最黑暗的暴风骤雨，走向光明的美好未来。这就是今天父亲节这个日子我为大家所做的祈祷，也是我对国家未来所抱的希望。
附：英文版
Today, this day reminds us that we depend on to create the cornerstone of life, the most important thing is family. We must recognize, and certainly the cornerstone of every father to play a key role. His father, patience, and coaching, both direction, and words and deeds. Father is a successful example, but also continue to promote the success of our people.
But if we open and injustice, will not admit too many fathers in their place……too many children's lives where, in too many families, the father of this role is missing. The expense of their home responsibilities, acting like the little boy, not man. The basis of our many family and therefore become weak.
In speaking these words, I knew that I am not a perfect father ——I know I made mistakes, but the future will make mistakes; I hope to have more time than it is now at home, accompanied by his wife and children, but can not do. All I know, but still have to say this. Because even though we are not perfect, even though we face the difficulties, but still there are some lessons we must strive to experience as a father, to sum up the……whether we are black or white, rich or the poor, from poor South or from wealthy suburbs.
The first lesson is that we must make to their children an excellent example ——because if we have high expectations for them, we too, should aim high. You have a job is a good thing, there is a college diploma is good enough. If you are getting married, children around the knee, that could not be better, but not the entire weekend at home watching ESPN Sports "sports center." Many children is under the influence of this growing up near the TV. As a father, as parents, we should spend more time with their children and help them complete their studies, from time to time their TV remote control into the hands of the game or a book. This is the way we lay the cornerstone of the family.
We understand that education is the key to creating children's future. We understand that in order to obtain good jobs, they compete with children around the world. We appreciate the hard work required for this purpose, learning and should reach the level of education. To truly compete, they need to graduate high school, then college, and perhaps have to take a postgraduate diploma. We shook their hands, that they moved his ass in the library's seat now!
Bring this idea of ??excellence instilled into the child's mind, it rely on us as fathers and parents. We have a responsibility to tell our daughters, do not let your own values ??affect the image of being on television, because I expect you to dream without limit, expect you to pursue those dreams. We have a responsibility to tell our son, although the radio songs glorified violence, but in my house, we celebrate achievements, self-esteem and hard work. We have the responsibility to these expectations, it means that we ourselves must also meet these expectations, we have to do in life, a remarkable example.
The second experience was as a father, we should identify with the values ??passed to the child. Not sympathy, but empathy ——to put themselves for the sake of others, see the world from the perspective of others. Sometimes we are so easily obsessed with the "we" word, should forget our obligations to each other. Our society has a cultural concept, keep in mind that these obligations is a sign of weakness ——we should not look weak, so we should not be people that care.
However, our young children or children ——girls will observe this. They will see you ignore his wife punched and kicked, they will observe your selfish, so at school or in the street to see the same behavior behavior is not surprising. This requires that we must lead by example, to have empathy with people and pass to our children. We need to set an example to the children, tell them stronger than other people down, but to help others up. This is why we should take responsibility as a father.
We should take these practices to our children a solid foundation. But we should also understand that even if we did, even if we do as fathers and parents to the obligations, even if our government has fulfilled its duties, we will encounter in life are still many difficult challenges. We will still be struggling with the painful days, rain will still be hit.
Therefore, we concluded as a father should be the last experience, we can give children is the most precious gift is hope.
We hope not words of hope, not the kind of blind optimism, or is the problem faced by the willful neglect. I say hope is the kind of misery in the inner spirit ——Even if all the signs are not optimistic that this spirit we believe a better future waiting for us, as long as willing to work for the the struggle. As long as we have this conviction.
We try, we hope, we try to put our house in the most solid foundation to build on. When the wind blows, when the rain when the storm hit our house, we firmly believe that God will guide us, watching us, protect us, to lead his children through the darkest of the hurricane, to a bright bright future. This is Father's Day today, this day I do pray for everyone, which I hold the future of the country's hope. 
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