黄淮学院专科分数线:【人生哲理】尊重与宽容 [图]

       无论伟人还是凡人，是人总有脾气。如果受到了羞辱，人总会发怒，这也不难理解。但是我们有没有想过自己太过极端的话语是否会给他人带来伤害呢？在大多数情况下，人是不愿争锋相对的，大多数的争执之所以会发生，就是因为双方都不肯做出让步。

People all care about their self-respect, especially Chinese. Self-respect is abstract and unpredictable, but is the tinniest standard in Chinese social interactions. When we say respect others, we mean not to hurt others' self-respect. Respect gives people power and honor. It lives among us though we can't see or hear.

       我们都很在意自己的自尊心，特别对中国人来说，自尊心更是重中之重。虽然它只是一个抽象且无法预测的概念，但在中国社会活动中，自尊却是最基本的一个元素和标准。当我们说到要尊重他人的时候，我们指的是不要伤害到别人的自尊心。别人对你的尊重能给你力量，让你更加自豪。这种感觉虽然看不见摸不着，但确实能够长久存在。

The most impolite thing is to disrespect somebody. They might hate you for a lifetime for this. Learning to respect others is not easy. First, we should show respect form the bottom of our heart without making others think we're superficial. Second, every little action, every small expression might hurt people.I remember a few friends of mine lost their opportunity just because of some small mistakes. For example, if a student asks a teacher a question and the teacher replies that it's easy. The student might feel humiliated and won't ask the teacher again. He might even lost the excitment to learn.

       最不礼貌的事情莫过于不尊重他人了，不尊重别人可能会让别人讨厌你一辈子。学会尊重别人并不简单。首先，我们要从心底里显示出自己对于他人的敬意而不让人觉得虚伪。其次，每一个小小的动作甚至细微的表情都可能伤害到别人，我还依稀记得有几个朋友就因为小小的错误失去了工作机会。假如一个学生问老师问题，老师回答说这题很简单的话，学生可能就会感觉受到羞辱、以后再也不问问题了，他甚至有可能因此失去学习的兴趣和动力。

The different backgrounds we have result in our different values. So nobody has the right to force others to accept their ideas. So we have to be tolerant. As long as he or she doesn't violate your basic regulation, why not treat it in a tolerant way? Even if they have made you unhappy, just let it gone with the wind.

       不同的背景造成了我们价值观的各异，谁都没有强迫别人接受自己想法的权利，因此，我们需要宽容。只要他人没有侵犯你最基本的准则，为什么不用一种宽容的态度对待他/她呢？就算别人让你不开心了，也只是暂时的浮云，一切都会过去的。

To be tolerant, you can;t speak extreme words. You might get in trouble just because of some words you think can bring you temporary pleasure. Even if you're criticizing people, you should try to be mild.

        要成为一个宽容大度的人，就不能说话太极端，因为一时冲动想满足自己的快感，你说出的话就像泼出去的水一样难以收回了，麻烦也会接踵而来。即使你在批评别人，也应该尽量使用温和的字眼。

Tolstoy is a great author. But his life is a tragedy, mostly resulted from his marriage. His wife's ever-lasting complain had put him to death. When Tolstoy was 82, he could bear his wife anymore and ran out of his house. He ended up dead in the railway station. Before he died, his only requirement was that his wife wouldn't be allowed to be with him. Lincoln was also like him. Some people say that the greatest tragedy in Lincoln's life wasn't that he was shot dead but his wife, Mary. For 23 years, he had to tolerate his wife's noise.

       托尔斯泰是一个伟大的作家，但他的一生却悲惨之极，主要原因就是他的婚姻，妻子喋喋不休的抱怨把他推向了死亡。在托尔斯泰82岁的时候，他再也受不了妻子了。他跑出家门，冲向了火车站，在那里结束了自己的生命。他生前唯一的要求就是希望自己能和妻子分居。林肯和托尔斯泰遭遇也很相似，有人说林肯一生最大的悲剧不是被枪杀，而是他娶了玛丽做妻子。23年的婚姻中，他每天都要忍受妻子的噪音，这让他不堪重负。

So come on everybody, show more respect and be more tolerant.

     (2010/11/27雨霖转载/编辑/收藏)