怎样打败内心的混蛋

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每个人内心都有一个阻碍你成功的混蛋，该文告诉你该怎么打败它！

The inner jerk is the anti-conscience of your thought process. It is the tiny voice inside your brain that says, “you’re not good enough. You’re not pretty enough. No, you can’t do that. You’re a loser. You’ll never amount to anything.” Sometimes it makes a home inside of your brain. It might even be the kind of jerk who makes frequent visits to your thoughts.

内心的混蛋是一种反道德的思考过程。它总是一种很小的声音在你脑海中：“你不足够好。你不足够完美。不，你做不了。你是个失败者。你从未完成任何事。”有时它在你的脑海中扎根。它甚至是那种频繁闯进你思维的混蛋。

We all have an inner jerk that feeds us negative thoughts about us, but we don’t have to listen to its nasty comments. There is a way to defeat the inner jerk within ourselves.

我们都存在内心的混蛋，它总是给我们消极的想法，但是我们没有必要去听那些恶劣的评论。以下就是靠我们自己打败内心混蛋的方法。

1. Establish a Goal

1.设定一个目标

Set your sites on a goal, something you want to accomplish in your life. Envision yourself achieving this goal and enjoying the rewards of your success. This will inspire you to work towards meeting that goal and it will also give you hope. At the same time, be open minded and be realistic about things. The path to success is a rocky path and you need to be prepared and fully equipped for the trip. There will be times when you will stumble and fall. But, don’t look at your falls as failures. Learn from the mistakes you made and establish a guideline on what you plan to do differently in the future. You learn and grow from your failures and you become a stronger person. Most importantly, always keep your eye on the prize. When you are focused and committed to the pursuit of your goal, you give your inner jerk no chance to hurl insults at you.

2. Get Involved

2.参与（社会活动）

Involve yourself in social groups and/or professional organizations, like Toastmasters, your local theatre community, a book club, or any leisurely activity you enjoy doing when you’re not working. When you get involved in any activity, you give yourself the chance to develop a new skill and to meet like-minded people. That is how lasting friendships form. Also, your confidence builds up when you learn a new skill.

当你不工作的时候，参与社会团体和（或）专业组织机构，像演讲会、当地社区剧院、书友会或你所喜爱的任何休闲活动。当你加入任何活动时，你给予自己这样一个机会去发展一项新的技能或结识共同兴趣的朋友。这就是友谊持续的方式。同样，当你学会一项新的技能时，你的自信也建立起来。

3. Surround Yourself With a Network of Supportive Friends

3.在身边建立人际支持网络

Choose your friends wisely. Surround yourself with people who are trustworthy, positive, encouraging and open-minded. Avoid people who are pessimistic, overly competitive, jealous and superficial. These people will only bring you down, not build you up.

明智的选择你的朋友。使你身边围绕着这样一群人：值得信赖的、积极主动地、鼓舞人心的以及心胸开阔的。避开这样的人：悲观的、过度竞争的、嫉妒的以及肤浅的。这样的人只会使你变得低下而非高尚。

4. Establish Healthy Boundaries

4.建立健全的界限

In a world where negativity prevails, you must have a good intuition. Know when to say NO to people who try to take advantage of your kindness and know when to give in to those who genuinely need a helping hand.

在消极流行的世界中，你必须拥有良好的直觉。懂得什么时候对那些企图利用你同情心的人说不，知道什么时候为那些真正需要帮助的人伸出援助之手。

5. Believe in the Power of Prayer

5.相信祈祷的力量

At some point in our lives we all face obstacles that seem insurmountable and instinctively, we know that we cannot overcome them alone. Perhaps you have to deal with a very self-centered, domineering co-worker, a lover who has decided to break up with you, or maybe you’re a newly published author who has no support from your publisher’s marketing department. In hard situations like these, it is easy to become confused and depressed because they are beyond your control.

在人生的某一时刻我们总会遇到那些看起来不可克服的障碍，我们知道无法独自克服它们。或许你不得不处理这样的问题：一位以自我为中心的、嚣张跋扈的合作者；一位决定同你分手的爱人，或者你是个没有出版商市场部支持的新出版作者，这些很容易使你困惑和低落因为他们都是你无法控制的。

While you cannot control what life gives you, you can seek out guidance to steer you in the right direction. You don’t have to be a Christian to pray. There is a loving God who knows you and the situation you are in and He only wants the best for you. If you seek Him, He will provide guidance. At the same time, God does give us free will. Therefore, He requires you to meet Him half way. With His help, you can take control of your situation and can make important decisions that will redirect your life on the right path.

当你无法控制人生境遇时，你可以寻求指导以引导你在正确的方向前进。你不用像个基督徒那样祈祷。这有个慈爱的上帝，他了解你，知道你的情况并且他只希望获得最好的。如果你去寻找他，他会提供指引。以此同时，上帝给予我们自由的意志。因此，他要求你在半途去见他。在他的帮助下，你可以掌控你的处境并作出重要的决定使得你的人生回到正确的道路上来。

With strength from above, you will be strong enough to repel the voice inside of your head that tries to put you down.

从以上可知，你可以足够强大从而击退内心那使你堕落的声音。

If you take all five of these steps, you will become a well-grounded, happy person. Why? You will know yourself as an individual, what you want in life, where you belong in this world and you will have a purpose. So, if your inner jerk decides to tell you otherwise, you can tell it, in a strong voice, to go away and never return.

如果你采取所有的5个步骤，你会成为一个有良好基础的、快乐的人。为什么呢？你会知道作为个体的自身，你想要什么，你在这个世界中处于何地，并且你还有目标。因此，如果你内心的混蛋告诉你另外的选择，你可以大声地跟它说：滚吧，别再回来。