重生花千骨喜欢杀阡陌:家长能帮助孩子做的102件事

1、阅读Linda Kavelin Popov的著作：家庭美德指南。

2、阅读蒙台梭利教育及理念的书籍，看看如何运用在你的孩子身上。

3、阅读“THE MICHAEL OLAF CATALOG”期刊。这个刊物向家长详细介绍蒙台梭利，以及如何选择家中适应孩子的玩具，材料和书籍等等。（http:www.michaelolaf.com）

4、花一些时间仔细观察你的孩子，看看他/她 的性格表现。

5、分析一下你孩子的柜橱，给孩子建一个便于移动独立的不被其它物品干扰的柜橱。

6、保证孩子有充足的睡眠。

7、使睡觉和起床成为平静和愉快的日常规律。

8、在家里教优雅礼仪并以身作则。和孩子有礼貌地交往，并帮助孩子践行礼貌礼仪。

9、避免体罚，学会正面的训导。

10、孩子的书籍单放一个书架，阅后放回原处。

11、定期去公共图书馆，认识图书管理员，了解图书借阅过程，和孩子一起读书。借书并让孩子懂得保管图书及阅后归还图书。

12、每天和孩子一起读书。和孩子读具有现实主题的故事。

13、让孩子8:30准时到校。

4、给孩子足够的时间让他们自己穿衣服。

15、让孩子自己参与准备食物，并鼓励孩子为自己的吃饭承担一些责任。

16、如果可能，给孩子找一小块地，至少是一个花盆，让孩子能体会种植东西。

17、以一孩子的速度一起散步，途中停下来一起观察事物并谈论一下。

18、每天上学的时候，帮助孩子平稳情绪，安静下来，不要过度刺激，不要携带玩具和食物上学。

19、不要设置电视和严格限制孩子看电视，让孩子积极参与活动，而不把孩子变成被动的观看者。如果看电视，和孩子一起看，并讨论看过的节目。

20、尽早教孩子收拾物品整理东西。比如，把玩具放回原处，把脏衣服放进洗衣筐，把盘子吃剩的东西倒掉，水池用后要清洁，等等。这样孩子懂得用完东西放回原处。

21、经常拥抱孩子，但不要强迫表示亲密友好。注意两者的区别。

22、经常分配一些适合孩子做的日常的家务活，比如：摆放餐具和餐巾，整理分类，垃圾回收，除尘和浇花等等。

23、参加学校组织的家长教育活动。

24、父母安排时间同去参加家长会。共同商议参加家长会的准备工作以及写下要问的问题。

25、口齿清楚地同孩子讲话，不要含糊不清。和孩子交流的时候要尊重孩子，让孩子在新的词、短语以及表达上展现他们的天赋。

26、和孩子说话的时候，身体要降到孩子的高度，和孩子有眼神的交流。

27、唱歌！音色好坏并不重要。经常和孩子一起唱歌，建立一个家庭里人人爱唱的曲目。

28、不要给孩子过多的正规功课和活动，让孩子有时间去玩，探究或做一些有创意的事。

29、教给孩子安全的知识。（诸如：用火柴，插电插销，用化工品，上下楼梯，过马路，怎么报警，等等）

30、让孩子知道家庭地址，电话号码，以及家长姓名。

31、随时随地见机教孩子数数。

32、反复讲述与家庭有关的故事。比如：“你出生的那一天……”

33、一起和孩子看家庭照片。帮助孩子认识家里的亲戚，他们的名字，家庭关系。

34、记录孩子的成长过程，写成日记，逐年积累。分享孩子的成长故事也是爱心的体现。家长可以在孩子生日的时候讲给同学听。

35、帮助孩子意识到他自己的感觉，以及表示描述感情的词汇。

36、和孩子一起做游戏。通过多次重复，让孩子学习先来后到，体验和经历输和赢。

37、和孩子一起去帮助别人，比如，给病弱的邻居送些吃的，给无家可归的人捐些毯子，给一无所有的孩子送些玩具等等。

38、讲美德语言。和孩子谈论耐心，合作，真诚，快乐，帮助，善良，等等。如果孩子表现出以上美德及时的认可。

39、不要给孩子太多的玩的东西。如果东西过多，应处理掉或先收起来一些，日后再替换。

40、记住一些诗词，教给孩子并和孩子一起背诵。

41、鸟笼里拴一个食物罐，让孩子负责放食物喂鸟。学习做一个好的观察者，观察学习你所看到的鸟。

42、不论何时，你带孩子到诸如商店、餐厅或医生诊厅前，一定要先 预期给他/她心理上有准备，同时要让他/她知道在这些地方你对他/她的期待是什么。

43、对孩子和其他的人表示感谢，也让孩子学会这样做。在收到礼物后会送表示感谢的卡片。 小的孩子可以口述让大人代笔，或送张画以示感谢。大的孩子可以自己写。目的是让孩子学会感激别人。

44、帮助孩子逐渐喜欢健康食物。不要强迫孩子吃他不爱吃的东西，但是也不能无限制的提供 替代的东西。把尝试新的食物变成一件有趣的事。谈论事物的色香味形。告诉孩子“滋味”，教给他们如何将食物变得有滋味。让孩子参与食物的准备工作。

45、采购食品的时候，和孩子谈论看到的东西---从金橘到龙虾。谈论食物的产地，谈论从事食品的种植、采摘、运输和陈列的人们的故事。

46、给孩子提供适合其身材的家具：做功课的桌子和椅子，或者在起居室放一把摇椅能和你挨着，一个孩子能收拾的床，一个脚凳能让孩子够得着水池和台面。 

47.开车的时候，指窗外看到的东西并和孩子谈论——建筑工地，有趣的楼房，车子，桥梁和动物。

48.教孩子礼貌用语。教孩子他人讲话时不插嘴。教给孩子说“打 扰了”，再等待一会。

49.分析一下孩子的不良行为，并从正面加以引导。比如：摔门——教给孩子怎样正确关门，在房间里跑——教孩子如何走，流鼻涕——教给孩子怎样用纸巾。

50.和不同年龄的人都好好坐坐，聊聊。

51.让孩子了解你的信仰，让他们感觉自己也是其中的一部分。

52.帮助孩子与不同民族，不同语言和不同信仰的人有积极地正确的接触。

53.多笑一笑。玩文字的游戏。讲讲笑话。培养孩子的幽默感。

54.给孩子讲讲你的工作。你工作的时候让孩子来看看，欣赏和感 激世界上任何他人所从事和完成的工作。

55.教给孩子游泳——越 小越好。

56.在家里放一个地球仪或地图，以便一旦听到什么地名，可和孩 子一起在上面查看。

57.保证孩子有合适的工具——适合孩子尺寸的笤帚，拖把，簸箕，小扫帚和擦尘的工具，等等，用来保持居家的整洁。

58.学会不带怨气，坚定地对孩子说“不”。不是所有孩子要的东 西都是合适的。

59.布置环境，并给孩子有选择的余地，这样可以多对孩子说 “对”，而少说“不对”。

60.不要嘲笑孩子。

61.提醒孩子将要发生的事，好让他们有思想准备。比如：“再过 十分钟就该睡觉了”。

62.教孩子查阅日历，熟悉日和月，学会特殊节日的倒计时。经常 和孩子谈论这些事。

63.养一只宠物，让孩子负责照顾它。

64.有任何东西损坏了，不要轻易替换掉。帮助孩子懂得钱的价 值，和行为的后果。

65.晚上散步­——听声 音，看月亮，闻一闻空气的味道。

66.下雨的时候出去走走。穿上雨衣和雨鞋，体会下雨的感觉。

67.允许小一些的孩子（6岁 以下）投入所有的体力和脑力做积极的活动。电脑只适合于上小学或更大的孩子。

68.如果你需要出差离开孩子一段时间，给孩子按天留下充满爱意 的便条，你不在的时候，他/她每天都能打开看一张。

69.让孩子听所有不同种类的音乐。

70.和孩子讨论艺术，参观雕塑公园，定期去博物馆看几张画。让 这些事情变得有意义和有兴趣。不要一次看的过多。

71.辅导孩子学归类：衣物归类，餐具归类，等等。

72.辅导孩子单词里面的发音。玩字词游戏：什么单词是m开头？什么单词是k结尾？

73.用合适的容器放置孩子的物品，并放于孩子能够拿得到的低架 上。

74.帮助孩子建立美感：带他/她看花，草木和自然地物质，尽量避免塑料等人造的物质。

75.帮助孩子一起收藏一些感兴趣的东西。

76.和孩子谈论颜色（别忘记色的渐变，深浅不同），质地，和你 周围能看到的形状。

77.给孩子提供美术材料、纸张、合适的围裙和规范工作空间的垫 子。同时给孩子提供清洁工具。

78.评估孩子所有的玩具。

   这个玩 具能帮助孩子学到什么？

   孩子玩 这个玩具吗？

   这个玩 具是好的吗？各个零件都齐全吗？

79.如果孩子能自己做某件事，尽量不要替他/她做。

80.安排体育锻炼的机会——跑 步，单足蹦跳，跳绳，攀登。教给他们在怎样是正确的姿势。如果有必要，到户外活动操场去。

81.教孩子如何静止不动和保持“安静”。和孩子一起这样做。如 果有机会，孩子是喜欢静静思考的。

82.让孩子知道他/她 的生日。

83.阅读由学校发放的通知。

84.提醒老师注意任何可能影响你孩子的事情，诸如：缺乏睡眠， 置身于争吵中，搬家，亲属来访，父/母外出等。

85.给孩子提供一个可挖掘的场所。允许孩子有时候可以无拘无束 的弄脏自己。

86.避免给孩子物质奖励或过多的称赞。让成功的经验本身作为一 种奖励。

87.不要代自己的孩子与他人交谈。给孩子表达自己的机会，如果 他/她不说话，也没有关系。

88.当你做错时，要向孩子道歉。

89.了解蒙台梭利教学法中的（孩子的）敏感期。知道你的孩子所 处在的时期，并善加利用。

90.学会等待。有些人们想给予孩子的或想和孩子一起做的，在等 到孩子年龄大一些时进行会更适合，不要操之过急，最佳时刻一定会到来，要专注他们目前的发展。

91.让他们知道你珍视他们的优点。让他们听到你对别人优点的表 达。

93.总是告诉他们实情。

94.带孩子到沙滩上去玩耍。

95.至少带孩子乘坐公共汽车、火车、飞机等公共交通工具一次。

96.和孩子一起看日出、日落。

97.与孩子分享适当的新闻：如新发现的恐龙，动物园中小象的出 生，因勇敢而获殊荣的孩子，天气预报等。

98.留意孩子的发型。是整洁毫不凌乱，还是头发总是挡眼，或者 发饰总掉下来，等等。

99.让孩子帮助你洗车，并学会汽车各部件的名称。在洗车或做其 他的事情时，家长应多花时间去关注孩子做这些事情的过程而非结果。

100.用不经意的方式谈论右，左，直行，转弯，北，南，东，西， 这样你的孩子可以掌握方向感及谈论方向的方法。

101.在冰箱底层放一小罐水或果汁，且把一个杯子放在孩子伸手可 及的地方，这样孩子可以自己取饮料。

102.如果你的孩子过于依赖某物，如奶嘴等，开始想办法停止。

祝您和 您的孩子一起享受生活！

102 Things Parents Can Do to Help Children 

1. Read The Family Virtues Guide by Linda Kavelin Popov and Dan Popov.

2.Read about Montessori education and philosophy and how it applies to your child.

3.Subscribe to The Michael Olaf Catalog. This wonderful publication is a clear introduction to Montessori for parents as well as a source book of ideal toys, materials, books, etc. for the home. (http://www.michaelolaf.com)

4.Take the time to stand back and observe your child carefully and note the characteristics he/she is displaying.

5.Analyze your child's wardrobe and build a wardrobe aimed at freedom of movement, independence, and freedom from distraction.

6.Make sure your child gets sufficient sleep.

7.Make both going to bed and getting up a calm and pleasant ritual.

8.Teach grace and courtesy in the home. Model it. Use courtesy with your child and help your child to demonstrate it.

9.Refrain from physical punishment and learn ways of positive discipline.

10.Have a special shelf where your child's books are kept and replaced after careful use.

11. Make regular trip to the public library, and become familiar with the librarians and how the library works and enjoy books together. Borrow books and help your child learn the responsibility for caring for them and returning them.

12. Read together daily. With younger children stick to books with realistic themes.

13. See that your child gets to school on time - that is by 8:30.

14.Allow sufficient time for your child to dress himself/herself.

15. Allow your child to collaborate with food preparation and encourage your extended day child to take at least some responsibility for preparing his or her own lunch.

16. If possible allow your child a plot of land or at least a flower pot in which to experience growing things.

17. Take walks together at the child's pace, pausing to notice things and talk about them.

18. Help your child be in a calm and prepared mood to begin school rather than over-stimulated and carrying toys or food.

19. Eliminate or strictly limit TV watching and replace with activity oriented things which involve the child rather than his/her being a passive observer. When the child does watch TV, watch it with him/her and discuss what is being seen.

20.From the earliest age give your child the responsibility to pick up after himself/herself,  i.e., return toys to place, put dirty clothes in laundry basket, clear dishes to appropriate place, clean off sink after use, etc. This necessitates preparing the environment so children know where things go.

21. Hug regularly but don't impose affection. Recognize the difference.

22.Assign regular household tasks that need to be done to maintain the household to your child as age appropriate. (Perhaps setting silverware and napkins on the table, sorting, recycling, dusting, watering plants, etc.)

23.Attend school parent education functions.

24.Arrange  time  for  both  parents  to  attend  parent-teacher  conferences.  Speak together in preparation for the conference and write down questions to ask.

25.Talk to your child clearly without talking down. Communicate with respect and give the child the gift of language, new words and expressions.

26.When talking to your child, physically get on his/her level,  be still,  and make eye contact.

27.Sing Voice quality does not matter. Sing together regularly. Build a repertoire of family favorites.

28.Refrain from over-structuring your child's time with formal classes and activities.Leave time to "just be," to play, explore, create.

29.Teach your child safety precautions. (Deal with matches, plugs, chemicals, stairs, the street, how to dial 911, etc.

30.Teach your child his/her address, phone number, and parents' names.

31. Count Utilize natural opportunities that arise.

32.Tell and re-tell family based stories. For example, "On the day you were born¼"

33.Look at family pictures together. Help your child be aware of his/her extended family, names, and relationships.

34.Construct your child's biography, the story of his/her life. A notebook is ideal so that it can be added to each year. Sharing one's story can become a much loved ritual. It can be shared with the child's class at birthday time.

35.Assist your child to be aware of his/her feelings, to have vocabulary for emotions and be able to express them.

36.Play games together. Through much repetition children learn to take turns, to win and lose.

37.Together, do things to help others. For example, take food to an invalid neighbor, contribute blankets to a homeless shelter, give toys to those who have none, etc.

38.Speak the language of the virtues. Talk about patience, cooperativeness, courage, ingenuity, cheerfulness, helpfulness, kindness, etc. and point out those virtues when you see them demonstrated.

39.Refrain from giving your child too much "stuff." If there is already too much, give some away or store and rotate.

40. Memorize poetry and teach it to your child and recite it together.

41.Put up a bird feeder. Let your child have responsibility for filling it. Together learn to be good watchers and learn about the birds you see.

42.Whenever you go somewhere with your child, prepare him/her for what is going to happen and what will be expected of him/her at the store, restaurant, doctor's office, etc.

43.Express appreciation to your child and others and help your child to do the same.Send thank you notes for gifts. Young children can dictate or send a picture. Older children can write their own. What is key is learning the importance of expressing appreciation.

44. Help your child to learn to like healthful foods. Never force a child to eat something he/she does not like, but also doesn't offer unlimited alternatives. Make trying new things  fun. Talk about foods and how they look or describe the taste. Introduce the word "savor" and teach how to do it. Engage children in food preparation.

45!When food shopping, talk to your child about what you see - from kumquats to lobsters. Talk about where food items come from. Talk about the people who help us by  growing, picking, transporting, and displaying food.

46. Provide your child with appropriate sized furniture: his/her own table and chair to work  at; perhaps a rocker in the living room to be with you; a bed that can easily be made by a child; a stool for climbing up to sink or counter.

47.While driving, point things out and discuss - construction work, interesting buildings, vehicles, bridges, animals.

48.Teach the language of courtesy. Don't let your child interrupt. Teach how to wait after saying,

"Excuse me, please."

49. Analyze any annoying behavior of your child and teach from the positive. For example: door slamming - teach how to close a door; running in the house - teach how to walk; runny nose - teach how to use a tissue.

50.Spend quality time with people of different ages.

51. Teach your child about your religion and make them feel a part of it.

52.Help your child to have positive connections with people of diverse ethnicities, language, and beliefs.

53.Laugh a lot. Play with words. Tell jokes. Help your child to develop a sense of humor.

54!Share your profession or occupation with your child. Have him/her visit at work and have some

appreciation of work done in the world.

55.See that your child learns to swim - the younger the better.

56.Have a globe or atlas in the house, and whenever names of places come up locate them with the child.

57.Make sure your child has the tools he/she needs - child size broom, mop, dust pan, whisk broom, duster, etc., to help maintain the cleanliness of the household.

58.Learn to say, "No," without anger, and with firmness and conviction. Not everything children want is appropriate.

59.Arrange environments and options so that you end up saying yes more than no.

60. Refrain from laughing at your child.

61. Alert children to upcoming events so  they can mentally prepare, e.g., "In ten minutes, it will  be time for bed."

62.Help children to maintain a calendar, becoming familiar with days and months, or counting down to special events. Talk about it regularly.

63.Get a pet and guide your child to take responsibility for its care.

64. Refrain from replacing everything that gets broken. Help children to learn the value of money, and the consequences of actions.

65.Take a nighttime walk --- listen to sounds, observe the moon, smell the air.

66.Take a rain walk. Wear coats and boots to be protected, but then fully enjoy the rain.

67.Allow your Primary-aged child to use his/her whole body and mind for active doing. Save computers for the Elementary years and later when they become a useful tool of the conscious mind.

68.If you must travel without your child, leave notes behind for him/her to open each day you are gone.

69.Expose your child to all sorts of music.

70.Talk about art, visit statue gardens, and make short visits to museums and look at a couple of pictures. Make it meaningful and enjoyable. Don't overdue.

71. Help them learn to sort: the laundry, silverware, etc.

72.Help them become aware of sounds in words. Play games: what starts with "mmmm?" "What ends with K¼.."

73.Organize the child's things in appropriate containers and on low shelves.

74.Aid the child in absorbing a sense of beauty: expose him/her to flowers, woods, and natural materials, and avoid plastic.

75.Help your child start a collection of something interesting.

76.Talk about the colors (don't forget shades), textures, and shapes you see around you.

77.Provide art materials, paper, appropriate aprons, and mats to  define  the work space.  Provide tools for cleaning up.

78.Evaluate each of your child's toys.

Does it help him/her learn something?

Does the child use it?

Does it "work," and are all pieces present?

79.Refrain from doing for a child what he/she can do for himself/herself.

80!Provide opportunities for physical  activity -  running, hopping,  skipping,  climbing.  Teach them how. Go to a playground if necessary.

81. Teach children how to be still and make "silence." Do it together. Children love to be in a meditative space if given the opportunity.

82.Teach your child his/her birthday.

83.Read the notes that are sent home from school.

84!Alert the teacher to anything that may be affecting your child—lack of sleep, exposure to a fight, moving, relative visiting in home, parent out of town, etc.

85.Provide a place to just dig. Allow your child to get totally dirty sometimes without inhibitions.

86.Refrain from offering material rewards or even excessive praise. Let the experience of accomplishment be its own reward.

87. Don't speak for your child to others. Give the space for the child to speak for himself/herself, and if he/she doesn't, it's okay.

88. Apologize to your child when you've made a mistake.

89. Understand what Montessori meant by sensitive periods. Know when your child is in one  and utilize it.

90. Learn to wait. Some things people want to give their children or do with them are more appropriate at a large age. Be patient, the optimal time will come. Stay focused on where they are right now.

91.  Play ball together: moms and dads, boys and girls.

92. Tell them what you value in them. Let them hear you express what you value in others.

93. Always tell them the truth.

94. Go to the beach and play in the sand.

95. Ride the bus; take a train—at least once.

96. Watch a sunrise. Watch a sunset.

97. Share appropriate "news" from the newspaper: new dinosaur was discovered; a baby elephant born at the zoo; a child honored for bravery; the weather forecast.

98. Evaluate your child's hairstyle. Is it neat and not a distraction or is it always in the child's eyes,

falling out of headbands, etc.?

99. Let your child help you wash the car and learn the vocabulary of the parts of the car. With this

and P P P other tasks take time to focus on the process for the child more than the end product.

100. Talk about right, left, straight, turn, north, south, east, west, in a natural way so your child develop a sense of direction and the means to talk about it.

101.Place a small pitcher of water or juice on a low refrigerator shelf and a glass in a  low place so your child can be independent in getting a drink.

102. If your child is attached to things like pacifiers, start a weaning process.

Enjoy life together