颓弛:8步获的真正的幸福

“我认为人生的意义在于成为有用的人，成为受人尊敬的人，成为仁慈的人。总之，从物质和价值来看，必须坚持一些东西从而使你的人生有所不同。”—路易斯•D•布兰代斯。

It’s become popular over the last several years, to create vision boards in order to manifest your dreams. Vision boards are collages, made with images cut from magazines. Their purpose is to represent the abundance you want in to create and obtain in your life.

在过去的几年中这句话流行起来，并创造出愿景版图来表现出你的梦想。愿景版图是拼贴画，将杂志中的图片粘贴起来。其目的在于表明在你的人生中你所想要创造并拥有的财富。

The manifestation guru’s want you to believe that reaching your goals and manifesting your dreams will bring you happiness.

这种梦想的表现形式是希望你相信达成人生目标和完成梦想将会给你带来幸福。 

The problem with vision boards is that they are all about ‘me,’ my needs, my wants, and my desires. They don’t stand for community, service to others, or making a difference, things I believe that are required for personal happiness.

愿景版图的问题在于人们总是聚焦于“自我”，我的需要，我的想法，我的欲望。他们并不会为群体考虑，为他人服务，或者做出改变，而这些是我认为个人幸福所需要的。

If money, possessions, fame, and status, brought happiness then Amy Winehouse would still be singing, Michael Jackson would be still be dancing, and Hollywood would be the happiest place on earth.

如果金钱、财产、名望和地位会带来幸福的话，那么艾米•怀恩豪斯将仍然在歌唱，迈克尔•杰克逊将仍然在跳舞，好莱坞将会是地球上最幸福的地方。

Tal Ben-Shahar author of The How of Happiness: A scientific Approach to Getting What You Want says, “Happiness is a combination of meaning and pleasure. We need what we’re experiencing to be meaningful.”

《怎样幸福》的作者泰尔•本-沙哈尔在谈到通过科学的途径获取你想要的方面时说过：“幸福是意义和快乐的结合。我们需要的是我们所经历的都是有意义的。”

Happiness comes from within. Being content requires living from within, putting more focus on personal values, and loving others. Happiness is more about internal qualities than external stuff. It’s more about inclusion than separation. Happiness isn’t something you search for or go after, it’s a moment by moment decision you make.

幸福来自内心。成为有意义的（人生）要求从内心而活，将更多的注意力集中在个人价值和爱他人上。幸福更多的是内在的质量而非外在的物质。更多的是包含而不是分隔。幸福并不是你寻找或追求的，而是你做出每一个决定的时刻。

Anyone can become a happier person because happiness begets happiness. However it does takes a lot of effort.

任何人都可以成为幸福的人，因为幸福会产生幸福。然而这需要付出大量的努力。

Read on for steps to implement your personal happiness plan:

阅读以下的步骤来提高你个人的幸福计划：

1.Make an intentional choice.

1.做出内在的选择

Happiness is an intentional choice. Each morning tell yourself, “I’m happy today.” Take daily responsibility for your happiness quotient. Choose to enjoy the next 24 hours, then the next, and the next. If nothing else ever changes in your life, know that in spite of everything, you can be happy. Make a commitment to happiness, be happy now.

幸福是一种内在的选择。每天早上都告诉自己：“我今天很高兴。”将你的幸福感成为日常的责任。选择去享受接下来的24小时，接着是再接下来的24小时，接着继续。如果在你生活中没有什么改变的话，你得知道不管怎样你都可以快乐。为幸福做一个承诺，现在开始快乐。

2.Practice self-acceptance.

2.实践自我认同

Honor your uniqueness. Dance with your spirit and reach for the stars. Shine your light on your quirkiness. Appreciate your magnificent talent and enormous wisdom, use them to make the world a better place.

赞美你的个性。于精神共舞并探索星空。将你的阳光聚焦在你独特的表现上。为你表现出的才能和智慧赞叹，使用它们让世界变的更美好。

Stop chasing happiness. When you quit neurosing about a better job, a bigger home, a smaller body, joy bubbles to the surface. Happiness isn’t something you chase or become in a distant future. Happiness is all that you are right now.

停止追逐幸福。当你摆脱那种为更好的工作、更大的房屋、更瘦小的身材的烦恼时，欢乐就显现出来了。幸福并不是你追逐或只有在遥远的未来才拥有的东西。幸福就是你的当下。

3.Invest in the best.

3.为最好的投资

The best investment you can make is in the relationships you have with your family, friends, colleagues, and community. Communicate. Spend time together. Participate in volunteering, a feel-good activity. As you enrich the lives of others you enrich your own. Strong connections to others increases your well- being. Chasing happiness causes you to miss the happiness right under your nose. Extend love to others today. Notice how good it makes you feel.

你能做的最好投资就是于你家人、朋友、同事和邻居的关系。交流。花时间呆一起。参与志愿者活动和让你感觉良好的活动。当你丰富他人的生活时你也在丰富自己的生活。加强同他人的联系也增加了你的良好感。追逐幸福会使你失去眼下的幸福。在今天更多的去爱他人吧。注意这会让你感觉如何之好。

4.Live in a state of appreciation

4.活在感恩的状态下

Learning to be grateful throughout the day will change the way you interpret life. It changes your brain and opens your heart. Writing down your gratitude list helps solidify it in your brain.The more you express gratitude, the more you find to be grateful for.

在每天中学会感恩的思维方式将会改变你对人生的理解。这会改变你的思维，开阔你的心胸。写下你感激的名单将帮助你调整思考的方式。你越感恩，你越会发现值得感恩的所在。

Happiness isn’t acquiring something or in some future event. Gratitude is found in the present moment, happiness follows.

幸福并不是要求什么或在未来什么时候。感恩会找到当下，幸福随之而来。

5.Drop grievances and resentments.

5．放弃不满和怨恨

Forgiveness is giving up being a victim. It turns ‘poor me’ into ‘free me.’ You create your own suffering, stress, and misery by your need to be right. When you hold on to resentment, you miss the present by reliving stories of the past. Happiness dwells in a loving heart and a healed past. Decide to see things differently. Don’t worry about how to forgive, instead choose to be a forgiving person.

宽恕就是放弃成为受害者。它将“可怜的我”转变成“自由的我”。你的遭遇、压力和痛苦都是自己创造的。当你坚持不肯放下的时候，重现过去的事件会使你失去当下。幸福来自爱心和宽恕过去。决定会使你从不同的角度来看事情。不要担心怎么去宽恕，而是选择去做个宽恕的人。

6.Enjoy your life.

6．热爱你的生活

According to University of California, Irvine’s Professor Lee Berk, “If we took what we know about the medical benefits of laughter and bottled it up, it would require FDA approval.” Take the time to enjoy doing the things you love. Don’t allow the pursuit of a dream trump your time to play and have fun. Be spontaneous, lighten up and laugh. Untether yourself from technology. Leave your electronics at home. Never underestimate the power of creating good times for yourself.

加州大学欧文分校的教授李•伯克说过：“如果我们知道笑的疗效并将其灌装起来的话，它会得到FDA的批准。”花时间去做你喜爱的事情。不要让追逐梦想的时间超过你享受乐趣的时间。出自本能的，轻松并欢笑。将你自己从技术中解放出来。把你的电子产品放在家里。永远不要低估自我创造完美时光的力量。

7. Get connected.

7．连接（精神）

Know what inspires you and supports you. Draw strength from a daily spiritual practice, draw, meditate, pray, spend time in nature or do yoga. When you feel connected and grounded, you rush less, do less, and desire less. You become happy with your life exactly how it is in this moment. Spiritual happiness allows you to squeeze all the joy you possibly can out of everyday. There is no other time, there is no other place, find happiness right here, right now.

知道什么鼓舞你，什么支持你。通过日常的精神锻炼、画画、冥想、祈祷、享受自然时光或是瑜伽来获得精神力量。当你感到连接并触碰到（精神世界）时，你压力更小，事情更少、欲望更少。你会为你当下的时光感到高兴。精神幸福会使你获得你可以每一天都得到的乐趣。没有另外的时间、没有另外的地点，就在这儿，就在这时找到幸福。

8. Celebrate your life.

8．为你的人生喝彩

Happy people take time to celebrate themselves and their everyday growth and progress. Validate yourself by being your own cheerleader and tooting your own horn. Recognize your accomplishments big and small. Don’t wait or rely on the approval of others. Celebrate that you have your basic needs met. You are worthy of all life has to offer. Know it, own it, celebrate it!

快乐的人会为他们自我以及每一天的成长和进步而庆祝。确认自我为自己的啦啦队队长，为自己的号角鸣笛。认同你自己或大或小的每一个成就。不要等待或依赖他们的鼓励。庆贺是你自己的基本需求。你人生中的每次付出都是值得的。了解它、拥有它、庆贺它！

Life is a grand event, participate in it fully. Researchers have found that people are happier being with others, than being alone. When you are with others, you become more alive, social, and care-free. In turn others want to be with you and near you. Happiness spirals upward. I’m all for that, are you with me?

人生就是一场盛会，充分地参与进来吧。研究人员发现人们跟他人在一起时比独处更快乐。当你同他人在一起时，你会更活泼、外向并且更自由。反之他人就会更乐意于你在一起，更靠近你。幸福感就是这样旋转着上升。我完全赞成这些，你要和我一起吗？