被强奸的古代美女视频:老外直言：怎样与老外交朋友（中英对照）666

　　One piece ofadvice really grabbed my attention and, I must say, made me feel quiteannoyed.In Li‘s opinion, foreigners are an"opportunity" to improve youroral English; whenever you see a foreigner, you should practicespeaking English to him/her. The writer goes on to say that if theforeigner doesn‘t want to answer your questions, then he/she is a rudeperson who you wouldn‘t want to spend time with anyway.I think thiscounsel is not only incorrect, but also potentially damaging torelations between Chinese and foreigners in China.

　　Like mostother laowai living in China, I know how isolated one can sometimesfeel living amid a culture far removed from our own familiar ways.However, most of the time this cultural isolation is something I simplyaccept as part of being here. I am, after all, here to learn about thepeople and the language of China and if I really hated this place thenI would go home! So far my time in China has been very rewarding. Ihave improved my Chinese language skills, learnt about one of the mostfascinating, swiftly developing countries in the world today and madesome very close Chinese friends.

　　Unfortunately,I have also come across many Chinese people who view me purely asan"opportunity"to improve their oral English under the guise of makingfriends. I have experienced people following me home from town to mycollege flat and then harassing me to teach them English or practiceEnglish with them. I have had complete strangers thrusting articles,manuals and speeches in my face, insisting that I help them with theEnglish translation. I have had people asking me to assist withimmigration applications to other countries. All of these people haveclaimed at the time that what they chiefly wanted was to make friendswith me. There was even one person at the weekly English Corner that Irun at college who, after plying me with non-stop questions for half anhour, became very angry when I politely asked him to give other peoplea chance to speak. He puffed himself up like a peacock and informed methat he was simply trying to be my friend.

　　He may wellhave thought he was trying to be my friend, butswheresI come from youdon‘t build friendships by pestering and badgering another person.Friendship for a lot of Westerners is about spending time with someonewhose company you genuinely enjoy.It‘s not about opportunities orpersonal advantage.The Chinese friends I have made while living herehave been genuine friends to me; we enjoy each other‘s company for itsown sake.In this way, we‘ve not only learnt a good deal about eachother‘s culture but also about each other as individuals.

　　I‘m notsuggesting that you shouldn‘t approach foreigners at all. However, I dothink that it‘s important to question your own motives. If you trulywant to make friends with someone from a different country, who couldpossibly object?On the other hand, if your only motive is to "use" theforeigner as a way of improving your English, then it‘s quite likelythat the foreigner will be able to see through you - and willdefinitely not want to spend time with you.

　　So if there‘sany advice to give on making and keeping friendships with foreigners, Iwould say that it is this:Treat foreigners as people, notopportunities.Expect to make friendships gradually, over a period oftime, not instantly. And don‘t ply foreigners with lots and lots ofdisparate questions. At times, this approach comes across as confusingand unnatural.

　　Finally, Iwould suggest that if you really want to make friends with a foreigner,then you do so because you are genuinely interested in the person. Weall know that true friendships stand the test of time. If your onlyreason for making friends with a foreigner is to upgrade your English,then you will probably find that you don‘t have a foreign friend forlong!

　　老外直言：怎样与老外交朋友

　　几天前，有这样一本书《怎样和老外交朋友》，作者是因“疯狂英语”而出名的李阳。作为一个在中国生活了一年的外国人，我自然很想知道一位中国作者在这方面给出了什么样的忠告。

　　有一条忠告真是吸引住了我，但我也不得不说，这条忠告让我很懊恼。按照李先生的观点，外国人是你提高英语口语水平的“机会”，只要见到外国人，你就应该上前和他们练英语。作者进一步说道，如果某个外国人不想回答你的问题，那他（她）就是一个粗鲁的人，是个你不屑与之交往的人。我认为这一忠告不仅不正确，还会给中国人和老外的关系带来潜在的危害。

　　像多数住在中国的老外一样，我知道生活在远离自己所熟悉的另一种文化当中，有时会感到多么孤独啊！但在多数情况下，我接受这种文化上的孤独，将其作为生活在这儿的一部分。说到底，我来这里是想了解中国人民和她的语言，如果我真的不喜欢这个地方，那我早就回国了。到目前为止，我在中国度过的时光非常有价值，我的中文水平提高了，了解了当今世界上最有吸引力的、发展最快的一个国家，一些中国人也成了我亲密的朋友。

　　但令人遗憾的是，我也撞见很多中国人，他们借口交朋友但却只把我看成练口语的“机会”，有人从城里一直跟到我的学校宿舍，缠着我教他们英语，或是陪他们练口语；还有一些陌生人把文章、手册、讲稿塞到我面前要我帮忙翻译；还有人要我帮他们写移民申请。所有这些人当时都声称主要目的就是与我交朋友。在校园我所主持的每周英语角上，甚至有一个人不间断地连问了我半个小时的问题后，在我有礼貌地请他也给别人一个机会练英语时，他竟然生起气来。他趾高气扬像只雄孔雀，告诉我他无非是想成为我的朋友。

　　他或许真的想成为我的朋友，但我来自一个不可以通过纠缠与烦扰建立友谊的国度。对于很多西方人来说，友谊是与某人共度时光，他（她）的陪伴让你由衷地感到快乐。友谊并非是“机会”或是能给自己带来什么好处。我在这儿交的中国朋友都是真诚的朋友，我们因为彼此喜欢在一起而在一起。在这种情况下，我们不仅相互了解了很多对方的文化，也加深了个人间的了解。

　　在此，我并非建议你根本不与老外打交道。但是，我认为重要的一点是问一下自己的动机。如果你真的想与来自异国的人交朋友，谁会反对呢？但话说回来，如果你唯一的动机就是利用老外将其作为自己提高英语的一种手段，那么老外很可能看穿你——那他（她）肯定不想与你共处。

　　因此，如果说我对与老外交朋友并保持友谊有什么忠告，我想说的就是：把外国人看成“人”，而不要看成“机会”；友谊是逐渐形成的，要经过一段时间，不要期望速成；不要没完没了地向老外提出大量的互不相关的问题，这样的接触方式有时会让老外犯晕或是觉得不自然。

　　最后，我想建议，如果你真的想和一个老外交朋友，那么你就应该是因为真心喜欢这个人。我们都知道，真正的友谊是经受得住时间考验的。如果你与老外交朋友的唯一目的是提高英语水平，那你恐怕就不会有一个长久的老外朋友。