英雄刀少年:取舍之间...

取舍之间...

               人生在世，如果计较的东西太多，

                                                                                       名利地位，金钱美色。

                                                               样样都不肯放手，那就会如牛重负，活得很累；

                                                                                      反之，什么都不计较，

                                                                         什么都马马虎虎，什么都可以凑合，

                                                                     那也未免太对不起自己，活得没啥意思。

                                                                               聪明的人，有生活智慧的人，

                                                                    会有所不为，只计较对自己最重要的东西，

                                                                             并且知道什么年龄该计较什么，

                                                                        不该计较什么，有取有舍，收放自如。

                                                                                                    十岁时，

                                                                              应该不再计较家里给的零花钱多少，

                                                                              不和别人家的孩子比较穿名牌服装，

                                                                           少不更事，和人家比吃穿，还情有可原，

                                                       年纪到了整数就该懂事了，前有孔融，后又洪战辉，都是楷模。

                                                                                             二十岁时，

                                                          该不再计较自己的家庭出身，不再计较父母的职业，

                                                     十几岁是，会和别的孩子比较家庭出身，比爹娘官大官小，

                                                          恨不得都投生帝王之家，将相之门，也是人之常情，

                                                                   但如果到了‘弱冠’之年，还弱不禁风，

                                                                                        尚无自立之志，

                                                             出身贫贱的还为家庭自卑，老觉得抬不起头来。

                                   出身富豪的还处处依靠父母，在家庭荫护下养尊处优，那就会一辈子都没出息。

                                                                                               三十岁时，

                                                                                  已成家立业，为父为母。

                                                                                有了几年家庭生活的经验。

                                                       大丈夫该不再计较妻子的容貌，深知贤惠比美貌更重要。

                                                                  会过日子媳妇比会打扮的媳妇更让人待见；

                                                        老婆该不再计较老公的身高，明白能力比身高更有作用，

                                                没有谋生能力的老公，纵然长成丈二金刚，还不如卖炊饼的武大郎。

                                                                                            四十岁时，

                                                                  该不再计较别人的议论，谁爱说啥就说啥，

                                                                                      自己想咋过就咋过。

                                                                  人言可畏，吓吓上世纪30年代的阮玲玉还成。

                                                                      如今的明星，一星期听不到他的绯闻轶事，

                                                                       没人对他议论纷纷，他就急得火烧火燎的。

                                                                                咱们虽然没有明星那高深道行，

                                                                 但不会再轻易被别人议论左右，这点本事应该有的，

                                                                                 否则也对不起‘不惑’这两字啊。

                                                                                                五十岁时，

                                                                             该不再计较无处不在的不平之事，

                                                                             不再计较别人的成功对自己的压力，

                                                                      不再眼红他人的财富，不再当仇富的‘愤青’。

                                                                              半百之年，曾经沧海，阅人无数，

                                                                                见惯秋月春风，不再大惊小怪，

                                                                                 历尽是非成败，不再愤愤不平。

                                                                                 看新贵飞扬跋扈，可不动声色。

                                                                         看大款挥金如土，也气定神闲，耐住性子。

                                                                                                 六十岁时，

                                                                            如果从政，该不再计较官大官小，

                                                                    退了休，官大官小一个样。都是退休干部；

                                                                如果经商，该不再计较利大利小，钱是挣不完的。 

                                                                                         再能花也是有限的。

                                                                                心态平和对自己身体有好处；

                                                            如果舞文弄墨，当不再计较文名大小，文坛座次。

                                                                                毕竟‘文无第一，武无第二’；

                                                                只要心情愉悦，有感而发，我手写心写也就行了。

                                                                          古来圣贤皆寂寞’管他文学史说三道四。

                                                                                               七十岁时，

                                                                          人到古稀。该不再计较的东西更多。

                                                                                            看淡事情更广。

                                                               年轻时争的你死我活的东西，现在只会淡然一笑。

                                                          中年时费尽心机格外计较的东西，如今看来已无关紧要。

                                                                                   一生多少事，‘都付笑谈中’。

                                                                                但是不是说明都可以不再计较了，

                                                                                     那也不是，这个岁数的老人，

                                                                                       我以为要有三样特别积极；

                                                                              健康的身体和谐的家庭，良好的名声。

                                                                    至于别的东西，也就算了吧，谁爱计较谁解决去。

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